Why is change so difficult?


1, DO YOU SPEND MOST OF YOUR DAY IN THE PAST? - Repeatedly Thinking Of The Past which then Hardwires the Past Experiences in Memory becoming a habit or fixed belief. 2, ARE YOU STUCK IN SAME ENVIRONMENT or holding on to OUTDATED BELIEFS . If one has No New Experiences - the brain keeps Producing Same Neural Pathways That become Habitual ways of thinking. 3, EMOTION IS LIKE A DRUG - More You Spend Time with One Emotion ( Eg: I am not good enough / I will never find true love) - The More You think this thought you form a neural pathway - That Is Why Changing Emotional Patterns Is Like Drug Withdrawal. You need a new experience that produces positive emotions to replace negative ones. When you find yourself stuck in the past or feeling low - Make sure you Engage in  healthy daily HABITS filled with exercise/ sunlight / meditation that will fill your body with feel good hormones like endorphins and serotonin, which will help you move away from negativity. Meditating once / watching one inspirational video won’t change your negative habits. ONLY CONSISTENCY/ REPETITION OF A HABIT WILL REWIRE YOUR BRAIN TO CREATE SUBCONSCIOUS HABITS. What is the Subconscious Mind? All those thoughts / habits / beliefs / self image that exist "Below your awareness level." We adopt so many of our habits watching our parents while growing up and sometimes we don't even realize that during tough times - we subconsciously react negatively with these exact same habits that we saw our parents/ mentors / teachers using. That is why it is so important to develop habits like meditation and ascension healing, that encourage mindfulness and self awareness- so that we stop reacting from our subconscious habits and instead, start proactively being our calm higher self during difficult situations . Another solution is to develop positive SUBCONSCIOUS HABITS THAT REQUIRE LESS WILL POWER. When we Use subconscious habits to do the heavy lifting, like training our subconscious mind to be good with people/ to control one's temper / meditate / work out / eat right - it saves our will power for more important things. "Habits lowers your reliance on willpower and motivation because, habits are actions that you take on a repeated basis with little or no required effort or thought." You will feel more at peace when you build a daily habit like practicing yoga (preferably at the same time) which then creates momentum to keep you going, especially during the days when you feel you don’t have the strength to practice yoga. "Conscious Visualisation + Consistency + Reward = CHANGE OF HABIT" 1, Use Conscious Visualisation (imagine) what you want to achieve and then use VISUAL GOALS to inspire change; like a VISION BOARD ON YOUR PHONE WITH PICTURES OF YOUR ROLE MODELS/ GOALS / DESIRES. 2, Consistency : Practice the same habit at the same time each day to train your subconscious mind to operate automatically. 3, REWARD YOURSELF : Study at Stanford University found that People tend to value their current time over future results since the brain values immediate rewards over future rewards. So Make HABITS FUN and keep it exciting by setting up rewards for yourself. The reward can be to View the habit as a positive activity. Eg: From experience you will know you would feel much better after 30 minutes of swimming laps than IF YOU DIDN'T SWIM. Or Give yourself a small gift: tell yourself if you succeed going to your kickboxing class twice per week for one month - you’ll buy yourself new sneakers . James Clear explains the reward system beautifully; "Your brain is a reward detector : Feelings of pleasure & disappointment helps your brain distinguish useful actions from useless ones We chase rewards because they serve two purposes: (1) they satisfy the craving & (2) they teach us. Eg: You wake up -You want to feel alert - You drink a cup of coffee - You satisfy your craving to feel alert - Drinking coffee becomes your reward associated with waking up. So what can you do to change a habit? E.g: You want to quit social media checking habit Ask yourself - is this good for my goals - why am I engaging in this habit ? You might discover that the True motivation behind social media checking habit is to escape the pain of boredom & gain the pleasure of entertainment. In order to quit that habit cycle - replace it : come up with a pleasure greater than entertainment & pain greater than boredom FOR THAT DAY." Eg: Pleasure - accomplishment of writing one chapter today of my book. Eg: Pain - Feeling guilty / unfocused if I don't finish the chapter. There’s a catch when replacing initial pain and pleasure cycle. It takes conscious effort & repetition to replace an unconscious motivation with a conscious motivation You need to consciously repeat the new motivation to replace the old one over and over until - new one becomes second nature (SUBCONSCIOUS HABIT) If giving up something - make sure you adequately replace any needs lost. If watching television MADE YOU relax - take up meditation or reading as a way to replace that same need. Don’t Let Guilt Stop Your HABIT Guilt & regret are draining emotions. Wasting time blaming yourself for not sticking to your habit - will only make you extra tired & frustrated. Don’t be angry with yourself - Instead focus back your energy on restarting your daily habits. Dr. Karyn Purvis of Texas University says, it takes over 400 repetitions to create a synapse in the brain (true learning) without playful engagement OR about 12 repetitions to create a synapse when you use play to teach. So, if you really want to effectively and efficiently teach your children (or anyone for that matter), use PLAY! Love light and blessings Anjali theascensionhealer.com theascensionhealer@gmail.com https://www.facebook.com/theascensionhealer/ 

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